Here’s why it’s different with Trump: He’s run his entire campaign through the lens of white anger. As a result he has not just tolerated, but incited acts of violence against people of color. I am an adoptive parent with three children who could become targets. The school president at my alma mater has also adopted nonwhite children, and recently he awoke to death threats written on the sidewalk.

Until Trump repents of his race-baiting and makes a genuine attempt at reconciliation, it’s not possible for me to respect him, the office of the presidency, or even the nation that elected him. The stakes are too high.